Late-Life Planning With Your Parents
Sep 08, 2010 / By: Pablo Palomino, Estate Planning Attorney / Category: Elder Law, Estate Planning, Incapacity Planning, Long Term Care, Medicaid, MedicareYou’ve begun to think about your retirement and your estate planning options.
But as you gather information, open accounts and sign documents you get a nagging feeling. Have your parents done the same? Did they start saving for retirement when they were younger or are you going to have to allow them to move in with you and your family? Who is supposed to care for them when they can’t drive any longer or need help to pay their bills on time?
Although you don’t want to pry and snoop around in their business, as their child, the financial decisions they may or may not have made could impact your own financial health. An AARP survey found that family caregivers who are also working other jobs, provided a few thousand dollars a year in expense coverage for their parents.
Creating a late-life plan with your parents can save you thousands of dollars and hours of stress and aggravation as your parents age. Ask your parents what plans and documents they have in place so far. They’ll need a Healthcare Power of Attorney, a regular Power of Attorney, a Living Will and a standard Will, at the very least. Talk to your parents about where they want to live out their days; their home (in which a caregiver must assist them) or in an independent, assisted living or nursing care facility?
If you feel uncomfortable openly discussing these issues with your parents, try a discussion fantasizing about how you want your old age to look and work into the conversation the questions about what they would want. Make sure you cover the location and people with whom you want to live; the types activities you’d want to have available to you, any travel plans, how you plan to pay for everything, where you would keep your legal documents, who would be responsible for your finances and housing costs or medical care.
If you sense hesitancy or understand that your parents haven’t made these decisions, you may want to urge them to seek estate planning advice. Perhaps they do not understand how much money they currently make could be spared from estate taxes and the burden they are likely to place on their children, if they do not plan ahead.
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